4 Of Our Favorite Ways To Get Support When You Need It
It isn’t easy for ambitious women to find and invite in the support you need and deserve. Here’s how.
For so many of the (self-described) ambitious professional people-pleasers in our community of women, it is really difficult to ask for help, even when we need it most.
But we’ve learned, one of the best remedies for overwhelm is finding a support squad, a group of people who can pitch in when you need something off your plate, help you make important decisions, and give you much needed perspective when you are potentially holding yourself back from asking for what you need.
After years of working with women to “design their own lives”, we know that having help that we can count on feels really good.
Here are a four of the ways we suggest you get started.
HIRE YOUR SQUAD
Whether it is a therapist, cleaning lady, meal prep service, or a babysitter there is a time when the expertise of a professional is what you need to feel the weight of responsibility lifted off your shoulders. Your time is valuable, which means it is not selfish or lazy to hire people to do a job that you could do (if you only had more time).
ASK ANYWAY (EVEN IF YOU THINK THEY’LL SAY NO)
So many emotions come up when we need help, vulnerability, fear of rejection, disappointment, but we don’t have to let those emotions drive our decisions. We can choose and choose again when trying to find the right support for ourselves in the season we are in. If you need help, ask for it, if they say no, you are exactly where you started.
GET COMFORTABLE SAYING NO
It may seem counterintuitive that you need to learn to say no if you want good support, but having brain space to know what you really need only comes from not over committing in the first place. When you clear away the clutter and the noise of too many activities and responsibilities by learning that “No.” is a complete sentence, you will find that giving all of your time away doesn’t mean all of that energy comes back.
JOIN A GROUP
We created SWELL by Rebelle to connect successful women with one another whether they are working inside companies or successful business owners, to create a safe space to talk through their challenges. We literally practice asking for help inside of our groups because it is so common for our members to need more help than they are asking for. Asking for help doesn’t mean you aren’t awesome, it means you are human.
